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It’s not that hard to recognize toxic behaviors in other people. It’s obvious when someone rubs you the wrong way with their negativity or disruptive behavior. If you tend to leave situations feeling drained and overwhelmed, it’s likely you’ve been with a toxic person.
Though it’s not too hard to see someone else’s toxicity, how well do you identify toxic traits in yourself? Now that’s a tough one!
Many times, people are unaware of their own toxicity and how it impacts others. Unless someone has confronted you with the impact you’re having, you may be utterly clueless how toxic you come across.
Take a Look Inside
Self-assessment is always a good thing. Asking ourselves if we are operating at our best and seeking to see ourselves through healthy filters is a good practice. Everyone has room for improvement and self-awareness is a wonderful thing. Here are a few things to ask yourself to gauge if you might be a toxic person.
- Do you tend to focus on what’s wrong with people or situations?
- Do you tend to engage other people to process your negative feelings on a regular basis?
- Have you found yourself at odds with other people or do you often lose friends and don’t know why?
- Do you look to others for support and encouragement rather than rely on your own self-esteem?
How Do I Fix It?
If you’ve answered yes to more than a couple of these questions, you might have some toxic traits worth reviewing. If you are worried that you may have developed toxic ways of dealing with stress or disappointment, here are some tips to shift from toxic to terrific.
- Be aware of toxic habits or traits
- Seek guidance, counseling, or therapy
- Practice new habits to replace old ones
- Seek feedback
Self-Awareness Is Important
Self-awareness is the first step to combat toxic traits. Having toxic traits doesn’t make you a bad person and there is plenty you can do to abolish them. Find someone to talk to like a counselor or therapist. They can help you identify what started the toxicity in your mindset and what you can do to shift it. As you start finding new and better ways to engage others, asking for feedback on your impact can help. Those closest to you will likely notice the improvement and encourage you to keep at it.
People don’t actively set out to be toxic. It usually develops as the result of their environment or a traumatic experience. It’s easier to recognize toxic traits in others rather than in ourselves, but it’s important to do a self-assessment to make certain we aren’t showing up in life in negative ways. Screen your own level of toxicity and take the important steps to eliminate it from your life.
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