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4 Questions to Ask in the Search for Your True Self



Good morning!  I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

It’s been busy around here.

We are starting the process of organization ahead of school! It’s hard to believe that school starts in one month here!

My cousin got the call this weekend to receive her kidney transplant! Hooray!

And my parents have finally decided to move to an assisted living apartment in their home town. I am happy they are moving forward but I still wished they would move here.

We have looked at the importance of Finding Your Purpose and the SWOT analysis when doing the work of a self-analysis. This post provides a few specific questions that can be completed in conjunction with the SWOT analysis.

The Search for Your True Self

what makes you happyIsn’t it interesting how there are no two individuals who are exactly alike?  Even identical twins — who share the same DNA – aren’t exactly the same.  In addition to our genes, we’re molded by our environments.

Why is it that so many people feel so unfulfilled and don’t know what they’re here for?  Even if you believe in God or a higher existence, you may still be confused as to what your purpose is.

You may feel that this is the life you signed up for.

Here are some questions to ask yourself so that you can begin to discover who you are and what you are meant to be.  Only once you know who you are, can you begin to live the life you truly desire through reaching new heights and potential.  You might want to grab a pen and paper to write down your answers so that you can refer to them again later.

  1. What are your favorite things to do?

We’re talking about things you love doing and feel most happy when doing.  For example, if you’re a mother, do you feel most happy when you are at home with your children?  Do you have any particular hobbies that you love? Do you enjoy bicycling, volunteering, or exercising?

2. If money was no issue, what would you really do with your time?

Would you continue working at the job or career that you are currently involved in?  Or would you do something different?  What would you do – would it be related or in a completely different field?  Would you even keep working?  What is it that you always wished you could do?  Would you travel to specific destinations?  Would you build a nice house?  Where would it be?

3. Are you afraid of judgment from others if/when you change the course of your life?negative to positive

It’s difficult to be who you truly are meant to be, if you’re fearful of being judged by others.  For example, if you grew up with two parents who were physicians, there’s often the pressure to follow in the footsteps of the parents.  After all, it’s a career which holds a lot of prestige, and one where you can earn a decent income.  However, it can also come with a lot of stress, and a lot of hours away from home.  It may mean missing a child’s birthday or other important events.

It’s easier to follow your true passions when you have people who support you and recognize you for your uniqueness.

4. Do you wake up excited to start the day?

Are you excited to go to work, and feel like what you are doing is meaningful and significant?  Or does it feel like you only start living after the workday has ended, and you can pursue other talents and interests?

To conclude, you have been provided with some questions that you can ask yourself to help you discover your true self.  If you learn that you aren’t following or listening to the true desires of your heart, then only you can make those changes in your life.


I wish I had these questions 20 years ago. Since I made my decision so early in life, I never considered anything else. I don’t think I wouldn’t have attended medical school, but I may have gone into it with a different mindset.


Asking these questions – no matter what stage of life you are in – can help you make some decisions about yourself, who you are, and what you want.

It’s never too late to make a change and to find your true self!

Loving Life—The Reboot!


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  • Dana Vento

    These questions make the perfect litmus test for deciding if you’re where you want to be in life. I think they’re important ones to ask ourselves whenever we start to feel a little off tack.

  • Tara

    Some times it is difficult to know your true self. These are important questions to ask in your search to find who you really are.

  • Ally

    These are such great questions to ask ourselves everyday. Answering them honestly can really help us develop us as a person.

  • Kristen Kirk

    Such deep questions. I don’t think I have found my true self yet, though I am much closer than I used to me. I’m going to spend some time thinking about these.

  • Jessica May

    Self evaluation is always a good idea. God is my rock through, my ultimate strength comes from Him!

  • Heather Anderson


    These are great questions and happen to be some of the many that I’ve been asking myself as I’ve been working to rediscover who I am as a self, and outside of my role as the mother to my two children who have made up my identity since my oldest was born 18 years ago. You are sooo right that we need to really know ourselves before we can be all that we hope to be.

    It’s nice to read the good news about your cousin and your parents! I too find it hard to believe that it is so soon to be back to school for the kiddos!

    Thanks for sharing.


  • Edward

    What I like most about this post is about being judge by others. I don’t worry about how anyone else think about or how they would judge me. As long as I am not harming anyone, I will live life with less worries

  • LiveLoveAndAdventure

    Great post, thank you for sharing. Sometimes it’s hard to remember what it is you like to do. When you have kids and your focus is 100% on them, sometimes what we like to do takes a backseat to what needs to be done. It’s good to find yourself again, and to have balance.

  • Kamapala Chukwuka

    These are such important questions to ask if one really is seeking to know themselves. I especially like the judgment from others question, a lot of us are so afraid of what others would think that we stay in situations we don’t like. I just love this post, thanks for sharing x

  • Heather

    Those are questions that I ask myself regularly. I believe that I am being my true self, but who knows if I’m undervaluing my potential.

  • Marie Kait

    This is great! I always think too much of others opinions. I’m finding that the older I get, the happier I am in my own company, away from judgement.

  • Nicole

    These are all great questions to ask yourself when searching for your true self. I would have to say that I would stay home with my son full-time if money wasn’t an issue. I get excited with my home business. If I was able to do that and be home more that would be amazing, but not quite there yet. Thanks for sharing!

  • Agnes dela cruz

    I guess one of the hardest things to beat and get an answer to is when you are dealing with your own self. I hope people can deal and learn things at ease.

  • Sayanti

    Tbh, I am just not thrilled when I wake up every day. To much work is what makes me neglect a few very important and happy moments but work is important too. So, I guess work first. What do you think?

    • Dominique

      It sounds like you may have to consider some of these questions — perhaps you aren’t doing what you love? Also you have to make time for fun — I have to make sure I do the same thing!

  • Tanya

    I’m turning 30 next month as I’ve starting asking myself questions like these and I want to focus on finding my true self and living my best life. I definitely want to focus on waking up excited the most every day

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