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A previous post on this blog looked at Trusting Yourself and using tips from others to get there. And that’s a good start.
But as part of learning to trust yourself, you need to understand WHY you don’t trust yourself…
Many people don’t trust themselves for one reason or another. Knowing the cause can help you break the issue down and begin to change. Once you discover the problem, you will be well on your way to learning how to trust yourself.
Kids’ Stuff
Start with your childhood. No, this doesn’t mean you have to spill your guts to a shrink lying on a couch. However, if you think back to your childhood, it can give you some clues as to why you have developed a distrust of yourself. Perhaps your parents were distrustful of themselves. It could also be siblings or other relatives. The purpose is not to blame them. Just recognize that it happened and use it to move forward.
A Matter of Distrust
Do you find it difficult to trust others? Doubt everything that people say to you? It’s a situation that causes you to be in a constant mode of distrust. It isn’t too much of a stretch for that mode to extend to you. Therefore, you have to learn how to start putting trust in other people. Most people will appreciate you for it.
Are You Hypersensitive?
Are you an overly sensitive person? If so, this could cause you to be mistrustful of yourself. You may take what others’ say out of context. That is because of your sensitive nature. It’s not wrong to be sensitive. You just have to realize that it can cause you to misread what others are saying or feeling.
Are You Trustworthy?
Another reason for not trusting yourself is that others don’t trust you. If you are not trustworthy, how can you expect to trust yourself? You may not even realize this is happening. You may think you are doing right by others when in fact, you aren’t. Ask for an honest assessment as to whether your friends and family feel you are trustworthy. That can be a hard pill to swallow, but it’ll offer great insight. Try not to get upset if people tell you that you aren’t trustworthy. It’s a learning experience.
Putting your trust in others is sometimes going to backfire. Some people are simply not trustworthy. They may even try to convince you that they are. You should accept this as a part of life, and try not to project experiences from a few onto other people. Otherwise, you’re going to continue to maintain your wall. This wall will make it difficult for you to trust others as well as yourself.
Loving Life–The Reboot!
Dominique
Comments
I never really thought about trusting myself. I have a harder time trusting others at times, but this is really interesting to think about.
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It can be difficult but it’s a good thing to believe that you can make good decisions! Good luck and have a wonderful day!
I definitely tend to have trust issues not only with myself, but others as well. Self-doubt can really affect you, so this reflective post was nice to come across.
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Very true! I am glad it was helpful! Have a great day!
This makes sense. I had to overcome a lot from my childhood and trust was one of them
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That’s great to hear. I am glad that you are on a better path!
I trust myself more now that I’m older. When I was younger, I was so insecure. I still can be, but I am getting better!
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I think all of us have some insecurities but at least you are aware and can manage them!
Can’t thank you enough for this post, it is actually very insightful. I don’t often trust myself and i had no idea why. This helps. Thanks again.
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You are welcome — I am glad it was helpful! I hope you are having a productive week!
wow what a great reminder to trust and have confidence in yourself!
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Thank you for reading! Have a great day!
Great article. I love the self evaluation!
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Thank you and thanks for reading!
It is important to trust in yourself and to find that confidence in who you are. This is something that I have battled with since I was a teenager. It is amazing how many things you pick up on as a child without even realizing it.
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That’s true. The good thing is as you get older you may be able to recognize those issues and deal with them!
I am a VERY sensitive persona and I tend to overthink EVERYTHING. This has been a struggle with me for a long time and hopefully I can figure it out soon.
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I tend to have a lot of guilt if things don’t work well so I definitely understand. With work, I have gotten better with it. Good luck to you!
This is deep. I don’t trust myself because sometimes, I make unnecessary decisions. Thanks for sharing this.
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Good luck to you on better trusting yourself! I am sure you can do it!
It is interesting to know that one can also have trust issues with oneself. i never thought about it but now after reading your blog I am also introspecting.
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I am glad you found it interesting! Thanks for reading!
There’s nothing wrong with allowing yourself to trust others. Just don’t let anyone abuse that trust because you are correct, not anyone deserves our trust.
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So true! As you get older, you often get better at learning who deserves your trust. Not always obviously but we do better at determining who deserves your trust than we did as children.
It’s hard to trust when you’ve been burnt. It’s important to do so though, because not everyone is untrustworthy, that’s for sure.
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It’s important to learn who you can trust for sure! Have a great day!
This is a really great post. Trusting yourself can be an issue that is so deep, you don’t even realize the issues it causes in your life.
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Thank you so much! I am glad you enjoyed it! Have a great day!
I was super insecure with low self-esteem. I know why after a lot of self-reflection. I am now practising self-love and trusting myself more.
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Congratulations on improving those issues! I am glad things are moving in the right direction!