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A previous post on this blog looked at Trusting Yourself and using tips from others to get there. And that’s a good start.
But as part of learning to trust yourself, you need to understand WHY you don’t trust yourself…
Many people don’t trust themselves for one reason or another. Knowing the cause can help you break the issue down and begin to change. Once you discover the problem, you will be well on your way to learning how to trust yourself.
Start with your childhood. No, this doesn’t mean you have to spill your guts to a shrink lying on a couch. However, if you think back to your childhood, it can give you some clues as to why you have developed a distrust of yourself. Perhaps your parents were distrustful of themselves. It could also be siblings or other relatives. The purpose is not to blame them. Just recognize that it happened and use it to move forward.
A Matter of Distrust
Do you find it difficult to trust others? Doubt everything that people say to you? It’s a situation that causes you to be in a constant mode of distrust. It isn’t too much of a stretch for that mode to extend to you. Therefore, you have to learn how to start putting trust in other people. Most people will appreciate you for it.
Are You Hypersensitive?
Are you an overly sensitive person? If so, this could cause you to be mistrustful of yourself. You may take what others’ say out of context. That is because of your sensitive nature. It’s not wrong to be sensitive. You just have to realize that it can cause you to misread what others are saying or feeling.
Are You Trustworthy?
Another reason for not trusting yourself is that others don’t trust you. If you are not trustworthy, how can you expect to trust yourself? You may not even realize this is happening. You may think you are doing right by others when in fact, you aren’t. Ask for an honest assessment as to whether your friends and family feel you are trustworthy. That can be a hard pill to swallow, but it’ll offer great insight. Try not to get upset if people tell you that you aren’t trustworthy. It’s a learning experience.
Putting your trust in others is sometimes going to backfire. Some people are simply not trustworthy. They may even try to convince you that they are. You should accept this as a part of life, and try not to project experiences from a few onto other people. Otherwise, you’re going to continue to maintain your wall. This wall will make it difficult for you to trust others as well as yourself.
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