It’s Tuesday and I have my monthly follow-up appointment at the Transplant Clinic. This is typically almost an all-day event – I have to get blood drawn early in the morning, but I don’t get seen by the doctor until the afternoon. I have a tablet (my iPad has gone to the great iPad home in the sky) and some magazines to entertain myself. However, it’s never enough, and I find myself napping or staring off into the distance waiting for my name to be called…
To survive the wait, there can be no negative self-talk – “this is taking too long” or “I’m bored”. Otherwise, you will find yourself being rude to the wrong people, and your name pushed down to the bottom of the schedule. Talk about ruining your day…
I’m not serious about that (or am I?) but it does show the benefits of positivity.
Last week, we talked about 5 Ways to Increase Your Self-Confidence. I wanted to dig a little deeper into some of the items on that list. Two of the 5 ways mentioned were associated with positivity.
Everyone talks about being positive, but few people get into details about how to do it. Being positive is mainly about improving your own attitude so that you feel happier and better on the inside. The more positive you are, the happier you will be and the more you can achieve. It takes work though, and below are some concrete actions that can lead to more positivity in your everyday life.
- Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Feelings
Many of us hang on to negative feelings because we don’t know how to deal with and get rid of them. We have to deal with them, so they won’t fester. For example, if you’re feeling angry or upset with somebody, you can talk over issues with them in a nice (calm) way. Don’t try to start an argument or make the situation worse than it already is. There are also other ways of getting rid of general negative thoughts, such as meditation, exercise, or talking to a therapist.
- Use Positive Words
Avoid any negative words and phrases, whether it’s inside your head or when you are talking to other people. Common phrases such as ‘I can’t do it‘, ‘I’ll never manage that’, and ‘I’m not good enough’ are obstacles in the way of achieving a positive mindset. Even if you’re not feeling particularly confident about something, tell yourself that you can do it and that everything is going to be okay. If you say it often enough, you start to believe it.
- Stay away from Negative People
It’s amazing how influenced we can be by other people, and if you’re spending time around someone who is negative, this can easily rub off on you before you even realize it. It might be a work colleague, a member of your household, or a close friend. You can either talk to the person and ask them to stop being negative because it affects you, or you can limit the amount of time you spend with them. Negative people can affect both your positivity and your self-confidence.
- Remember that You Are in Control
A lot of people are negative because they don’t understand just how much control they have over themselves and their own lives. You might not be able to change some things, but you generally have a lot of control over the things you do, the things you say, people you speak to, and how hard you work to achieve something you want. Once you realize that you do have significant control over many things in your life, you will feel more positive about your life.
In the end, being positive is a big part of self-confidence. If you are a positive person, more than likely, you are self-confident and vice versa. Many of the steps to achieve one trait have positive effects on the other trait. Making an active attempt to incorporate these tips into your everyday life can lead to noticeable changes in your life and attitude.
Here is a freebie Positive Self-Talk Affirmations Cheat Sheet that can help you become more positive!
What have you done today to be more positive? Talk about it in the comments.
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