The terms happiness and contentment have become more or less interchangeable.
While they both have to do with feeling happy, there’s a difference between the two. There are reasons to strive for contentment vs. happiness in the grand scheme of things. Let’s take a look at the two terms, what they mean, and most importantly on what sets them apart from each other.
What Is Happiness?
We all know what happiness feels like. It’s that giddy feeling in your stomach that puts a smile on your face. Happiness is a bubbly, active feeling that comes and goes in waves or spikes. We don’t feel happy all the time and that’s OK.
Without times of indifference, and even sadness, we wouldn’t be able to recognize happiness and feel it as deeply as we do.
What Is Contentment?
On the other hand, contentment is a steady feeling that’s a little different from being happy. While we also don’t feel content all the time, it’s something that lasts longer. It’s a steady feeling instead of a spike of emotion.
When we say we want to increase the happiness in our lives, what we really mean is that we want to feel more content. We aren’t looking for those big moments of excitement and laughs. What we want is to feel positive, content, and comfortable for long stretches at a time. That’s what we really mean when we wish for a long and happy life.
What Sets the Two Apart?
Happiness and contentment work together but aren’t the same emotion.
Think of happiness as something similar to falling in love. It’s exciting, it’s fun, and it’s a very strong emotion. Contentment is more like a good, long marriage. There are little ups and downs, but overall things are comfortable and we’re happy in the relationship. The initial excitement wears off with time, but it’s replaced by something steady, comfortable, and very positive in its own right.
To live a happy and fulfilled life, we need happiness as well as contentment. Increasing contentment is the name of the game. It’s not as fleeting as happiness, yet we need to start with increasing how often we feel happy to fuel our contentment.
What can you do today that would bring joy and happiness into your life? How can you then extend that into a feeling of contentment? Maybe it’s decluttering your home to have a more inviting space to come home to. Maybe it’s working on a relationship and rekindling the passion. Maybe it’s making a change in your career that gives you more work that feels fulfilling. Find the things that bring you happiness and contentment and go after them.
It’s perfectly fine to focus on happiness. It’s easier to define and grasp. It’s also easier to notice than a small increase in contentment. Thankfully focusing on more happy moments in our lives also increases our overall contentment. The same people and things that make us happy also make us content.
5 Small Ways to Increase Contentment When Life Gets Tough
There are always times in our lives where it is harder than usual to stay happy and content. We experience loss, we get stressed out, and life just throws us a curve ball. When you find yourself facing these challenges, it’s important to take the time to find little ways to increase happiness. It will give you the energy and will to persevere until thing get better.
With that in mind, here are 5 simple ways to increase contentment. Try them now, get in the habit of doing them, and they will serve you well during tough times. At the very least, I hope you remember this article and come back to it when you need these simple tips the most.
Get Some Support
When life gets hard, we often feel alone. It doesn’t seem possible that anyone else is facing what we’re facing. While this may be true when you focus on every little detail, it isn’t true when it comes to the big picture. We all face challenges, and we all go through periods in our lives that are hard. You aren’t alone in this.
To stop feeling like you have to carry all the weight and do it all on your own, lean on your support network. Call a friend just to talk about what’s going on. Ask someone close to you to watch the kids for an hour or take one little chore of your plate to give yourself some breathing space. Find a support group locally or online to exchange ideas and “war stories”. Find and build your support network and then don’t be afraid to lean on them. It could make all the difference.
It’s easy to push too hard when we feel backed into a corner or trying to get through a rough time. Often the first thing we stop is self-care. We don’t think we can afford the time, energy, or money to rest, relax, and do something nice for ourselves. What we forget is that these simple little things are what gives us the drive to keep going. They rejuvenate us and put us into a better frame of mind.
Make yourself stop and do something every single day to take care of yourself. Think of it as required maintenance to keep you from breaking down further on. It doesn’t have to be expensive, and it doesn’t have to cost a lot (or any money). Go take a warm bath or sit quietly for half an hour enjoying a cup of tea while thumbing through a magazine or reading a few pages of a trashy novel. Find what makes you feel better and put it on the calendar regularly.
Focus on Destressing
Self-care helps us de-stress and that’s important. The hard times in life are also the most stressful ones. One of the big problems with stress (aside from causing all sorts of health issues) is that it tends to blow things out of proportion. Every problem looks bigger when we’re stressed out.
Think of some simple things you can do to de-stress. Go for a walk, have a good cry, take a hot shower, do some yoga. Do something to help you reduce the stress you’re feeling. You’ll come back more relaxed and with a clearer head. You’ll be much better equipped to deal with your problems.
Take A Nap
Not getting enough sleep is another issue many of us face during hard times. Our minds keep going, making it harder and harder to fall and stay asleep. Yet getting adequate rest is crucial to keep up our focus and energy to keep going.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but when you’re working as hard as you can to dig yourself out of a hole, often the best, and most productive thing you can do is take a nap. You’ll come back refreshed and able to work harder and more effectively.
Get Outside and Exercise
Last but not least, make yourself get out and exercise. This could be as simple as going out for a twenty-minute walk on your lunch break or doing some yoga or stretches in the back yard while the kids play. The fresh air, sunshine, and moving around will help you de-stress and relax. It will also make you sleep better. Try it and see if you don’t start to feel better.
These are some suggestions – there are other methods that I may touch on a future post.
But it’s a good place to start, right?
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